Those of you who follow me on facebook will know that I have been away with my family for a few days. It was only a 3 night trip but it was one we all really needed and that I think we all really enjoyed. Usually with holidays I plan really far in advance but because this was a last minute trip (we were offered a heavily discounted rate and managed to negotiate it for when our little one was out of plaster) I didn’t do what I normally would. The place we stayed was lovely and although I’m not one for sitting around hotels (or in this case holiday parks) there was so much for the boys to do that we did spend a few hours a day just enjoying what was on offer.
We didn’t do a lot. With toddlers (or any small children for that matter) I think it’s important to do things that will keep them interested and entertained, it’s their holiday too after all. So we skipped all the historic stuff and the wineries and spent lots of time by the beach walking, at the park playing (don’t ask me how many different parks we visited!!) and visiting the few cafes we could find that would fit our double pram. The best part about going on holiday during the slow season (and during the week) is that everywhere is really quiet. We didn’t have to try and squeeze into places and the beaches and parks weren’t crowded.
With my little one’s leg still injured it was really important that were extra careful with him and allowed him to set the pace. And you should have seen him go!! Although we took the brace with us because it didn’t fit to be used in the car seat or pram he really only wore it to sleep at night. I had a few moments of panic when I thought he was going to rebreak it from crawling along fall speed, or pushing his walker around the park, but he was fine. He knew when he needed to slow down and you could tell when his leg needed a break as he’d stick it out to the side like when the cast was on it and crawl along that way. It was so cute!
Hubby got the family time he had been missing, I got a sense of relaxation from spending lots of time by the beach listening to the waves crash on the shore and the boys got to have fun. What more could you ask for?
So my sons cast finally came off on Monday and for 2hrs we were happy, I was dreaming about how life would go back to normal and I’d have my beautiful happy, laughing, adorable boy back. Those dreams were quickly shattered when we were told that he would have to were a full brace for 3 weeks. The brace is worse than the cast was!! With the cast on, at least he could use his good leg and he was happily motoring around the house (albeit slowly). The brace we have been given completely disables movement of both legs. And the worst part is, I don’t know why. Because the brace was fitted by someone other than the doctor who said he would be going into a brace they weren’t able to tell us anything and we haven’t been able to get in touch with the doctor since.
We quickly discovered the brace would not fit in our pram, the car seat, or his high chair. The only times he is suppose to have it off is for a bath. So our options are to stay home and do nothing for the next few weeks or do what we have been doing and only having the brace on at home. It’s not the best solution I’m sure but at the moment it is the best I can do. The world does not stop because we have been thrown another curve ball, and both boys will go stir crazy if we sit at home for 3 more weeks.
So my plans to get back into blogging and meal planning and cooking and sewing and everything else (including trying for a baby) have yet again gone on hold. And as much as I was annoyed for a day, that’s ok, I was entitled to my annoyance and frustration but I’ve done the adult thing and decided what’s really important. My boys will always come first and making sure my little one is safe and his leg doesn’t get re-broken is definitely my first priority.
I haven’t been writing like I normally do, simply because I have not had the time, energy or really know what to write. Monday was a horrible day for me, and I honestly just wanted to crawl into bed and cry. I questioned my life decisions and felt that I was a bad mum. I’m sure we’ve all had that kind of day. Thankfully Tuesday, yesterday, was a wonderful family day. It was a simple day with my husband and gorgeous twin boys just out and about. It reminded me of just how happy I am, how much I love them all (even when they drive me crazy) and how lucky I am.
Life is all about perspectives. Some people view my life as hard and at times awful, and lately I’ve been listening to it a bit too much and buying into what they have been saying. Yes having twin toddlers can be extremely challenging, but its also so rewarding! Watching them play, hearing them laugh and being there when they discover something new is wonderful!!! Not having a stable income and living on a budget is also hard, but it’s not impossible. We still manage to go out and have a coffee and I still get to treat the boys to a trip to the local play centre or a new toy. We may not be able to afford fancy dinners and expensive holidays but we do manage.
Being a stay at home mum is a choice I made. I became a mum because I wanted to spend time with my children and help them learn and grow. I choose to stay home most nights, put my kids to bed and then relax on the couch. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything. I know parents who have had their kids and been out drinking again with their friends within the week. That’s a choice they make, but that is not me. My kids are my responsibility and I take that very seriously. I take time out when I need it, which isn’t very often and the boys have no problem with being looked after by family. I’m not the person I used to be, I’ve grown up. I may not fit in like I used to but I’m ok with that.
Yesterday reminded me that I’m ok with where I am at and that I need to drown out the voices of others, because their perspective of my life is not my perspective.
My perspective is pretty beautiful
So following on from my post on reusing items from around your house, here is a short list of how you can reuse those tin cans, rather than just throwing them into the recycling bin.
* Tins (particularly formula tins, as they have a lid) make great money boxes. Simply cut a coin slot and start saving. If its for something special decorate the outside of the tin so you know what you’re saving for and aren’t tempted to ‘borrow’ from the tin.
* Tins make great planters for seedlings. Just drill one or more holes in the bottom (depending on the size of the tin) for drainage, fill with soil and plant your seedlings. For an attractive display attach 3 to a plank of wood and plant some herbs. Perfect for just outside your back or side door.
* Paint a tin can white and attach some white lace for an attractive vase for flowers.
* Use tin cans around the house for storage – paint them or cover them in paper to match your décor, and use them to hold your kitchen utensils, pens, or toothbrushes.
* I have also been told you can make tin cans into DIY candles.
* Below is a great idea for a DIY Tin Can Lantern from Apartment Therapy, you can view the directions here.
Looks great for outdoor entertaining!
I’ve been doing a bit of reading the last few day (online, despite my stack of books waiting to be read) and I never cease to be amazed by how different everyone’s opinion is and how when someone doesn’t agree it can turn into an argument over nothing.
As you would know we are going through our own rough period and some days it is extremely difficult. I am positive everyone has gone through these stages or will do in the future. It’s not easy and it does sometimes leave you questioning your decisions, looking back on your past and wondering what if. I love my little family and I honestly can say I wouldn’t trade it for the world but that doesn’t mean its perfect. It’s hard, damn hard.
I’ve lost my temper a few times over the last week and honestly felt like I was going to snap. Unfortunately I’ve yelled at my kids and although I do feel bad when they cry, when they are doing something dangerous it’s necessary. Not everyone sees it that way though and I have seen far too many people getting into arguments over the way you ‘should’ parent. What I do in the privacy of my own home is not for anyone else to judge (unless it is abuse in which case the police should be involved) and to be honest I’m a bit tired of hearing that ‘my child never listens to me’ nonsense. Yep my kids frequently ignore me, it doesn’t mean I’m just going to give up because eventually it’s going to sink in and they will learn. And when they are touching power cords or anything else that could potentially hurt them they will definitely get yelled at. My boys are smart enough to know that there are things they are not allowed to touch, although we are still going through the curious toddler stage they are well aware that some things are off limits. And of course they are going to test those limits again, they want to make sure the same rules still apply. Every few weeks one of the boys will toddle off to a power cord, get down low and look at it, reach his little hand out and look at me. He is checking to see if I’m watching, which I usually am, and to see how I will react. They know that they will get a warning call out of their name and a stern ‘NO’ to remind them that they should not touch. If they choose to ignore me, which does occasionally happen, then they get yelled at. And usually tears ensue, then we cuddle and make up, explain that its dangerous and move on. Until the next time.
There is no right way to parent, we all do it in our own way and we learn from our mistakes. For most of us parenting is the biggest learning curve in the shortest space of time and we have to learn to adapt. Sometimes I just wish people would keep this in mind before telling everyone else they are doing it wrong.
I’m always on the look out for ways to use up what I have without having to buy a whole lot of new ingredients, so I adapted this recipe for apple muffins from some other muffin recipes I found and I must say they taste yum!
* 2 1/2 cups self-raising flour
* 1 tablespoon caster sugar
* 3/4 cup milk
* 1 egg
* 1/2 cup vegetable oil
* 3/4 cup brown sugar
* 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
* 1 cup apples (finely chopped or pureed)
* Preheat oven to 160°C. Spray two mini muffin trays or two regular muffin pan trays.
* Combine the flour, caster sugar and brown sugar in a bowl.
* Add milk, egg, oil and vanilla. Mix until just combined.
* Mix in apples.
* Spoon mixture evenly between pans (you want to make each spot about 3/4 full).
* Bake for 10 minutes mini muffins or 15 minutes for regular muffins. When you insert a skewer it should come out clean.
* Stand in pan for 5 minutes. Transfer to a wire rack to cool.
* I make mini muffin size for my twin toddlers as they are perfect size for a snack.
* You could adapt this recipe to use other fruit such as pear, blueberries or banana.
* These freeze so well, I freeze them in a container and take a couple out in the morning and they are defrosted in time for afternoon snack.
So last week was such and up and down week with one of the boys having a broken leg and being out of action and me trying to contain his twin from destroying my whole house. All while nursing my own shoulder, which still hurts. I probably haven’t done myself even favours carrying the boys around the house but as parents we do tend to just grin and bear it a lot of the time for the sake of our kids.
A few days ago we headed out to the shops to stock up on some fresh fruit and veg, not to mention bread and milk, and I’ll also stocked up on some cheap cuts of meat to put in the slow cooker. Hubby is on a shift change for part of this week so it’s really going to mess with the boys usual routine, but we will see how we go.
Monday – Chicken burritos
Tuesday – Salt and pepper squid (the calamari has been in my freezer for so long)
Wednesday – Spaghetti Bolognese (sauce made in bulk a while ago and frozen)
Thursday – Chicken souvlaki (home made)
Friday – Take away (pizza?)
Saturday – Fettucini Carbonara (sauce made in bulk a while ago and frozen)
Sunday – Chicken and tomato risotto
I’m still on the kick to use up the bits from my pantry which is why I stocked up on some cheap cuts of meat this week (all those meal base type packets are going to be used if it kills me!). So far I have made beef and mushroom ragout in the slow cooker, and a mild chicken curry (using the very cheap drumsticks) also in the slow cooker. I made big batches (we’re talking 12 portions) that have all been divided up and frozen. I also defrosted part of my old batch of beef ragout and made meat pies with it for lunch for hubby, he tried one tonight and is very impressed! Tomorrow I’m hoping to get a beef stew thing on, as well as a chicken, bacon and potato bake. I’m very glad to be using up lots from my pantry, as I can finally see my stocks going down, which makes more room for other things – seriously don’t ask what other things, stuff just seems to accumulate and appear from no where!!