Reaching my limit

So it’s been almost a week since my last blog post.  In that time I have been so unwell I ended up in hospital, my husbands little run about car has completely died (needs a new engine so bye-bye car) and we have attended a family wedding.

To say I am exhausted is such an understatement.  I have hit my physical, emotional and mental limit in the last few days and have been craving time and peace.  But when you have twin toddlers that does not come easily.  Thankfully my time in hospital was only short and although I am still not better (fingers crossed I feel better by the end of this week) I weirdly appreciated my time in hospital.  I know hospital is a place that no one wants to be, least of all me – I actually have a lot of bad associations with hospitals and will usually point blank refuse to go, but this time I was ready to go.  And my experience was actually really pleasant.  It was the first time in such a long time that anything was about me.  The nurses and doctors look after you, it’s quiet, it’s tidy and there’s no children demanding your attention.  I am well aware that you are all thinking that I am crazy but the time in hospital was what I needed (except for the needles which really hurt!!!).

So as I’m still not well I have been trying to rest at home.  Let me tell you it’s not working.  The wedding we attended was lovely but I was really not well enough to enjoy it or feel anything but sick and stressed and it’s very hard to manage a wedding with small children.  Thankfully our boys have always been very well behaved at these sorts of events so were quiet for most of the ceremony and managed to stay amused for a couple of hours at the reception (until I decided we had all had enough and it was time for home).  We had so many people comment about how well behaved the boys were that I felt I needed a sign that read ‘thank you,’ as I had no voice for most of the evening and was straining to try and be polite.

Add to my lack of rest is the fact that we now have to rely on only one car, so anything that I have to do has to be done first thing in the morning before hubby goes to work and takes my car.  Due to his hours and how far away from home he works public transport is not an option, so until we can work out finances for a new (second-hand) car and find one that’s within our very minimal budget we will have to get by on just my car.  No idea how that is going to work at this stage but while I’m still sick it doesn’t really matter as I’m not that keen on going out anyway!

Hopefully this is it for our bad luck but who knows, I’m just trying to take it as it comes now and deal with one hurdle at a time as I can’t afford to get anymore stressed.

Sick, sick, sick

So I am sick and feeling pretty awful.  I don’t cope well when I am seriously ill, as my body tends to go into shutdown mode.  So it’s a real struggle at the moment to try and rest, deal with the pain from being sick and still be a good mum to my kids.  All I want to do is curl up in bed and rest (I haven’t slept much unfortunately) but that’s just not possible when hubby has to work and I’m left home with two very active toddlers.

Thankfully my toddlers can be very sweet and one of the boys will often come up to me for a kiss or a cuddle which just melts my heart.  They don’t give kisses yet but hopefully that will come soon!  I’ve taught the other one, who had the broken leg and is still extremely moody and hard to handle, how to blow kisses as he’s not as affectionate but I still want to create that bond.

I always put my kids first and me being unwell does not change that.  Yesterday in my fevered state, instead of resting I went and picked up a toddler sized kitchen that I’d bought off ebay.  Watching them play with it today, opening up cupboards, pretending to eat cookies and wash dishes was so adorable.

kitchen

A little bit of organisation

I have to be honest I’m sick of the boys being sick. They are very sooky and it’s starting to really get on my nerves!!!  To top it all off I am not feeling 100%.  But there’s no time for lying down and feeling sorry for myself, the boys need extra attention, and things need doing around the house.

I visited Ikea earlier in the week and bought some storage boxes so that I could start a very long process of sorting out some areas of my house.  So far I haven’t been able to do much but I have made a start and it feels good to start to get some things organised.  My dymo label is proving to be very useful, as it means no one will be able to complain that they don’t know where something lives!!

I find it really hard to stay organised and tidy now that we have two toddlers running around the house.  I’ve never been the most clean and tidy person but I do like certain things to be organised and because we moved into this house when I was pregnant I never really got around to organising everything the way I would like it.  Over the last couple of years I’ve worked on small areas and it’s always given me great satisfaction to get something done.

So all I can say is start small.  If you want to organise your whole house, just a room or even a cupboard, trust me start small.  If you give yourself big goals and can’t accomplish them in a short time frame it can really bring you down and you lose momentum.  Where as if like me you give yourself small tasks that can be done in a short space of time, you are much more likely to get them done and you will feel a great sense of satisfaction.  And that can make you motivated to move on to the next area of your house and to eventually tackle all the bigger jobs.

As you move through each of your tasks really look at what you have and decide if you really want to keep it and if you do where it’s new home will be.  You don’t want to be making more work for yourself by making piles and piles that then seem daunting to try and sort through to find homes for everything.  It can be a long process but trust me it is all worth it in the end.

Still sick!

Sorry I haven’t been posting much.  The boys have been quite sick, which makes them extra sooky.  In some ways I love it because it means they want to spend more time with mummy, but in other ways it means that I get less done and spend longer up with them.  They have actually been better through the night than I thought they would be and we even managed a sleep in the other morning – bonus!  But they definitely have not been themselves and it does make me feel pretty awful that I can’t make them all better.

Colds are just one of those things that requires rest, fluids and time to get over it.  So that’s pretty much what we have been doing.  Lots of rest at home with the heater going all day (I’m trying not to think of the gas bill that will be coming my way soon) and a few quiet activities.

Today we took a walk (in the freezing cold wind – probably not the brightest idea) and looked at the “diggers” at the creek working near our house.  I call them diggers because A – that’s what they are in Peppa Pig (and that show is a hit in my house) and B – because honestly I wouldn’t have a clue what all the proper names of them are!!  They are big and they are noisy but they are pretty cool for little kids to watch (and the fact that they are brightly coloured helps too I’m sure).  It was freezing so we didn’t stay long and we had to feed the chickens anyway so that was the motivation to get out in the first place.

If your in Melbourne I hope your keeping warm and looking after yourselves!  And if your somewhere warm please send a ray of sunshine to my house on Sunday so we can go do something fun!!!

Sick!

My two boys are sick. It’s just a cold bug but it’s that not being able to do anything to make them all better that gets to me. They slept in this morning which was a bonus but this afternoon they of course don’t want to nap. I put them to bed anyway as they can use the quiet time to rest and they seem to really enjoy playing their own little games in their cots and chatting away.  Just listening to them makes me happy.  They are so cute and sound so happy.

Hopefully this bug will pass quickly and my boys will be back to their usual selves in no time.  In the mean time it lots of cuddles, tv and some quiet activities.  This morning we did some drawing with crayons and this afternoon I think I’ll break out the play-doh.  The only other thing I can do for them is keep the heating on, keep an eye on their temperatures and try to make sure they’re drinking enough.

Fingers crossed I don’t catch their cold bug again!!

Entertaining toddlers when your sick

Unfortunately I’m unwell at the moment, very unwell.  And it is quite hard to look after twin toddlers when your sick.  I am lucky to have my husband home in the mornings so he was able to run around after them for me today, but this afternoon I’m all on my own.  So I thought I would share some ideas on how to entertain toddlers (1-2 year olds) when your sick.  This can be a tricky age as there isn’t many activities that they are capable of doing on their own,  so here is a few ideas…

* Ask your partner to take a day off work if you are really unwell – my husband offered today but because his shifts are so few and far between I sent him off to work.  Silly me!!!

* Ask someone for help.  A family member, a friend, a neighbour.  We don’t really have that luxury but if you do now is the time to use it!  They could take the kids for a walk, or just play with them while you lie down.

* Honestly if you need to take a nap, lie on the couch, close all the doors so the kids will be safe and have a nap.  You will wake up if the kids scream and you would be surprised at how much better you will feel if you have a 20min snooze.

* Busy bags are a great idea (I haven’t finished mine – bad timing!).

* Grab a whole lot of balls, lie on the couch and roll or throw them across the floor, my kids love crawling after them and bringing them back and I have a few extra so the ones they don’t bring back don’t matter.

* Sit on a chair or on the floor next to a pile of books and attempt to read to them – if they’re anything like my boys they will flick through them before you have a chance to read them but it does quietly entertain them for a little while.

* Lie on the floor and let the kids climb all over you.  One of my kids loves to jump on me (or should I say hurl himself at me), so that keeps him entertained.

* Turn on one of your kids favourite DVD’s, sit them down with a snack and enjoy the peace (or noise but at least they’re entertained!!).

* Put the kids in the bath, add in some extra bubbles, the bath toys and maybe even a drop or two of food colouring – if you top up the water to keep it warm they can have a wonderful play in the bath and all you have to do is sit and supervise (and throw the toys back in when they push them out).

* Snuggle yourself under a blanket and get another one for each child (their size), my kids like it when I tuck them in so they can pull it off.  Play peek-a-boo with them, throwing the blankets over their heads and watch them create their own fun.

* Grab a colander and some pipe cleaners and let the children figure out how to thread them through – great for fine motor control.

* Have a picnic dinner on the floor – it can be hard to lift up kids into their high chairs when your unwell so have a mini picnic for dinner.  Grab some cut up fruit, savoury biscuits, cheese and sultanas and let your kids enjoy.

* If your kids like to organise – one of mine does, cook the kids a handful of vegetables, give them a plate that has defined sections or a muffin tray and let them sort their food.  Easy dinner and play at the same time.  I sit mine in their highchairs and this can extend dinner time to an hour while you sit in a comfortable chair and try to feel better.

* Give the kids a roll of toilet paper or a box of tissues and let them go for it.  My boys love pulling out all the tissues and putting them back in, and you can still use them once they’ve finished playing with them.

* Bring out a toy the kids haven’t played with before or those that have been packed away for a while.  As the toy is new it will keep them entertained for quite a while!

Your kids will generally know when you’re not well and will hopefully be a little less demanding and give you extra cuddles!!  If it really comes down to it an early bed time will not kill them.  Put them in their cot with a dummy, soft toy or whatever comforter they use, and let them chat away.  If they are unsettled you can sit on the floor (or lie on the floor) and chat to them.  Mine love rhymes and songs (that I make up).